Are you tired of the slump that has recently become your life since undergoing a divorce? Join the club. However, instead of sulking on the couch and cursing the whole institution of marriage, why not do something about it? Take back your life and make it better than ever!

1.Exercise – exercise may not be your favorite thing to do, but it can be a great stress reliever. Furthermore, exercise releases endorphins which can help lift your mood. If you do not like the idea of sweating it out at the gym, there are plenty of other ways to exercise that nervous and angry energy away – join a fitness class, go for walks with a friend or take up a sport.

2.Vent to Friends – there’s nothing better than a few glasses of wine, a few tubs of ice cream and a few hours of complaining to your friends. Your friends are there in good times and bad times so take advantage of their loyalty and set up a vent session.

3.Focus on ‘u’ instead of ‘us’- most likely you have been living in the land of ‘us’ for a few years or more now. It may be hard to get out of the ‘we’ and into the ‘me’ but this can be a rewarding and self satisfying thing. Just imagine – if you want to eat dinner, you can, without having to wait around for your husband to get home. If you want to spend the weekend reading in bed, you can. If you want to see a sappy movie instead of an action movie, then rent the sappy one. It’s all about ‘me’ now.

4.Do all those things you put off – remember the dreams and aspirations you had as a single, back in the day, before marriage. Perhaps you wanted to write a book; perhaps you wanted to learn how to make sushi; perhaps you wanted to travel to Europe. Now you can. Nothing is holding you back anymore.

5.Pamper yourself, – there is no better time to rejuvenate your mind, body and soul than after a divorce. Visit a spa, get a manicure, go for a new hairstyle and shop like there is no credit limit. Sure, it may take a little more than a physical change in appearance to get out of the emotional slump, but looking good on the outside can lead to feeling great on the inside.

6.Re-decorate – whether you have kept your old home or moved into a new place, it’s a good idea to give the house a renovation. Get rid of the old shabby furniture and décor and instead light up the rooms in the style that suits you. Decorate the living room with a splash of fun and flirty color or opt for a tropical theme in the bedroom. After all, it’s all yours now – you are free to do exactly what you like.

Call to Action

Pick one thing from the above list that you can commit to doing this week. Let a friend know what you are committing to, and ask them to hold you accountable.

© Vanaja Ghose 2009

Vanaja Ghose (www.leavingyourmarriage.com page_id=5) is a Professional Life Coachhelping women who chose to leave their marriage or long term relationship and now want to powerfully recreate their lives. Vanaja helps people create a new relationship with money that propels them to take action and stop being an underearner. New Teleclass series starting soon:www.leavingyourmarriage.compage_id=192

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