SEPARATION-DIVORCE WHO’S REALLY RESPONSIBLE

Connie was a sexy blonde hair bartender. She had perfect height, perfect eyes, perfect everything. Connie’s happiest moment at the bar was announcing her marriage date. The bar made flyers and everyone celebrated. Two years later, I saw Connie bar tending at a different bar. I asked her how was marriage life. She pointed to her t-shirt. The t-shirt celebrated the exact date of her coming divorce. What happened to her marriage in less than two years times? Is any one or anything to blame?

Divorce is common. The reasons for divorce are limitless. Below are many of the main reasons why couples choose to divorce:

1) Able to afford the experience: Many are financially able to enjoy the “buzz” of marriage and the “finanical responsibilities” of divorce. Many view the finanical responsibilities in divorce as the cost of fulfilling one’s decision(s).

2) Pursuit of prestige and/or power: Some marry for the publicitiy and/or prestige that comes with the union. The divorce occurs as the “novelty” (or need) wears off.

3) Just wanted the experience: Sad to say many person do marry to say that they were married. When they decide to “exit”, the partner is left wondering why.

4) Things or people change: Now a days “till death do us part” doesn’t matter. Circumstantial change and/or personality change can cause one (or both) to “throw in the towel”.

5) The falling “out of love”- In my opinion this is a rarity. There are times, when two who actually did love each other, fall “out of love”. They might even try to re kindle the “flames of love”. Unfortunately, it’s time to move on. Hopefully the two can remain friends.

6) Marital infidelity-For many, when they are single, it seems that no one wants them. When the same person meets someone, they become popularly desired. It’s a known practice to have future brides and grooms faced with offers of infidelity (even at the wedding). Realistically some form of infidelity will affect a marriage. Married couples who believe in a lasting relationship might benefit for effective marriage counseling.

7) Highly egotistical attitude-A person who is demanding and/or unsupporting will tend to wear their partner down. At some point the partner might want out or begin to look elsewhere.

Marriage longevity not a priority-This one amazes me. A person feels that something is just as important or more important than their marriage. The couple doesn’t make time to grow together. Some feel that a sense of duty should “keep the marriage strong”. This viewpoint is unrealistic (and somewhat unnecessary). It is essential for the couple to spend quality time together. It is essential to show concern for one’s mate and assist them. The ancient “cave man” or “cave woman” attitude toward marriage will definitely lead to divorce and/or infidelity.

As stated earlier, the causes of divorce are endless. Anyone contemplating marriage should consider these questions:

1) Are both of you committed to a long term marriage: Emotions and logic don’t always agree. Yet, your answer to the “how committed” question may say you large finances and anxieties.

2) Can you financially deal with coming concerns: A wise person said that “love doesn’t pay the rent”. A great deal of finances changes hands with a divorce. The nationwide divorce rate should cause others to greatly consider the pros and cons of a legal union.

3) What will you do to keep your marriage growing: Remember, if it doesn’t grow, it cools off or dies. Many people invest finances in the “pleasures of life”, It is also very wise to invest finances in marriage experts and ways to keep your marriage desireable and beneficial to both persons.

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Gary Colin is Author of, “Bible Symbolism What It Means To Your Salvation (ISBN 1-4241-0152-2) http://garycolinastrologicalasscension.webs.com
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